What If Resistance Isn’t Resistance at All?

Seeing beyond hierarchy and witnessing the infinite ways movement happens.

I recently had a client who came to me with claims of an “incurable” disease, wanting to know if I believed she was curable. My initial response was, “Oh, here we go again.” This wasn’t my first rodeo with people fighting for their limitations, reinforcing my belief that some people need to bleed to know they are alive. Because even a painful identity is still an identity. I used to believe that some people were simply like children needing to be tucked back into the comforts of their well-known bed.

But with this most recent individual bringing this my way again, I couldn’t help but wonder if there wasn’t a bigger message within—one that I was now ready to see. What if they are showing me that expansion happens in ways I hadn’t yet considered?

What if this individual isn’t limiting herself in any way? What if she is simply exploring the endless expansion of contraction?

We talk about expansion as if it only moves outward—as if bigger, higher, and further are the only measures of growth. But what if expansion isn’t just outward? What if it also moves inward, deeper, smaller? What if there is no true direction to expansion—only more?

It’s like looking through a high-powered microscope—molecules become atoms, atoms become subatomic particles, particles break down into quarks and leptons, and beyond that? Who knows? It doesn’t stop. It just keeps expanding inward.

And maybe that’s what’s happening when people show up in my space, seemingly holding onto their struggles. Maybe they aren’t resisting growth at all. Maybe they are helping me expand—showing me that expansion isn’t just about going beyond but about going within.

This realization shatters the idea of hierarchy. There is no “higher” state of being, no “better” direction for expansion. There is only the infinite unfolding of more—inward, outward, in every possible dimension.

So now, when I encounter someone who appears to be resisting change, I don’t see them as stuck. I see them as another doorway into my own expansion. I see them as a reflection of something I haven’t yet fully explored. And I thank them.

Because expansion isn’t about convincing anyone to move. It’s about witnessing the infinite ways in which movement happens.

There is no limitation in any direction. Only more.

#BeBold

💋Kristen